We live in a society where scarcity is reinforced on a daily basis. We are surrounded by wealthy individuals with 'perfect' bodies with perfect relationships and wonderful lives. however, the truth is, nothing and no one is perfect. Not to say that our goals and dreams are not attainable, but with the prevalence of social media today, we are shown curated, edited, often fabricated truths. As well, we are often quick to look at all these people achieving our biggest wishes and think that we aren't able to the same. i would like to prove that belief wrong today.
they say, if you can dream it, believe it. We have an abundance of opportunity in our lives to do whatever we put our energy towards. No matter who you are, your outer appearance, your social status, regardless of all these societal labels we follow, we all have the same 24 hours to achieve abundance. I believe that every opportunity and experience that is meant for me will fall into place with the right intention and effort. Using the example of romantic relationships, so often do we find ourselves in predicaments where we feel like it is impossible to receive the bare minimum. We beg to be heard, we beg to be loved and we beg to be seen. For me, I believe that if you are not receiving the equal energy and effort you are putting into a relationship, you are better off alone. We cannot depend on another human being to complete us. Codependency is the dangerous risk that we take entering a relationship, and I too can say that it is a trap that is easily fallen into. When we love, we often love hard, and rose-coloured glasses can blind us to what is really going on.
Throughout our teen years and into adolescence, we are surrounded by people in circumstances that we crave, and this is even further exacerbated by the way social media is used today. It is easy to observe our friends falling in love and ruminating to ourselves how we wished it were us. Or we see our friend reaching their next big career or life milestone and we feel left behind. This phenomenon is what is often referred to by sociologists as scarcity mindset. Scarcity mindset is found where lack is a focus in regard to resources and other life experiences. Scarcity mindset can lead to increased anxiety and unhealthy controlling coping mechanisms and behaviours. I truly believe that we are all on our own timelines and journeys in which things will happen as are suited to you.
We are told as children a relatively set-in-stone outline of the human experience, obviously changing minorly within cultures and societies. We are expected to go to school, then graduate with a good score, either go to university or at least get a stable job. We are then expected to meet a partner, buy a home, get married, have kids, maintain a social life as well as our health, and the list goes on. To further these expectations, we also have a timeline that they are expected to be completed by, otherwise we have 'failed'. Personally, I believe that we are all unique beings, and we all have our own aspirations and dreams for our lives. Just because we see our close friends getting married, or we are told we should have bought a house by now, doesn't mean we have failed.
Abundance mindset refers to the belief that there are infinite possibilities for us all. Abundant thinking is positive, glass half-full and overall, a more fulfilling way to live. Comparison is the thief of joy. We all have the chance and choice to be happy and someone else's success does not take away from yours. If we believe that we can achieve it, then it is already ours. However, sometimes, what we think we want is not right for us, and we will be guided to what is better. We attract what we are, not what we want. If your goal in life is to be a prima ballerina, then you must emulate that lifestyle. Train hard, have discipline and believe in yourself. You must stop waiting to live the life you dream of because you don't believe you deserve it. Whether it be because you don't think you are skinny enough, smart enough or simply enough. You are worthy just because you exist. You must believe in yourself in order to reach your full potential. Life is short, sometimes you need to let go of things that aren't right for you in order to receive something better.
I have four key strategies for today that will aid you in developing an abundance mindset, as well as some examples of the relevant behaviours. First of all, you must practice acceptance of where you are, knowing that you will get where you want to be with planned action. You are the curator of your fairytale, and you have all the potential to become who you wish to be. Secondly, it is imperative that you practice self-compassion. You must be grateful to yourself for how far you have come and what you have made it through. You are not a victim; you are a survivor. My third strategy is mindfulness. This is one I am still working towards, but I am aware of its importance. When we are in survival mode to cope with the trials and tribulations of life, we often forget to find mindfulness. I love this quote, "Depression is found in the past, anxiety is found in the present, happiness is found in the present". We need to train ourselves to remain present to find inner peace. The final strategy is the use of journaling. Self-reflective journaling is an excellent strategy for our wellbeing. Within self-reflection, we can note areas we have already achieved abundance whilst also noting areas to focus and improve on.
To conclude, here are some examples of abundant behaviours you can implement into your life for increased joy and nirvana.
practice and voice your gratitude.
compliment others
forgive others and yourself.
do not hold anger or grudges.
keep a to-do or project list.
accept responsibility when you make a poor decision.
set small achievable and measurable goals.
exude joy
Thank you so much for reading and giving me your time,
Have a wonderful week. X Bamby
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